Do you suspect something’s wrong in your relationship?  Does it seem like he is not the same guy he was just a little bit ago?  Well, it could be nothing but, it could mean he’s steppin’ out.  Here’s some ways to tell;

 

 

 

1. He suddenly buys you gifts and never displayed this behavior previously.

2. He seems to be treating you better and paying a lot more attention to you than he normally does.

3. His schedule changes without reason ie; working late, hanging with new friends

4. He will not allow you access to his emails if he previously did.

5. He becomes curiously more protective of his cell phone.

6. He immediately takes a shower upon arriving home and he never did this before.

7. He avoids being in public with you or going to certain places restaurants, coffee shops etc with you.

8. He explains away many things as if he doesn’t know why it’s happening ie; new mysterious numbers in his phone, someone keeps calling and hanging up.

9. He avoids answering his phone in front of you, let’s it go to voicemail or goes into another room or outside to talk.

10. He avoids telling you where he’s going or takes longer to run simple errands.  He may get very argumentative when confronted on this.

 

Now, not all of these things mean that he’s a cheat.  He may just be quirky.  However, a tell tale sign that something is wrong is when things are being handled differently than they were before, for example if he used to be open with his phone or email and now has become private with it all, probably not a good thing.  Unless it’s around your birthday and he’s planning a surprise. 

One sure fire way to tell if he’s cheating and ease the crazy feeling in your stomach is to hire a private investigator.  Just be ready for the worst.  Decide ahead of time what is best for YOU if you do find out, and stick to it.  If you promise yourself you will leave because you believe “once a cheater always a cheater” then stick by your guns if you do find out he is being unfaithful.  If you decide that you are one of those people that are willing to give a second chance then remain calm when and if you find out a bout the infidelity. 

Bottom line is if he’s not willing to fess up to it once he’s been caught red handed by a P.I. then it’s probably not a good idea to give any second chances.  He’s denying that he has errored and doesn’t give you credit in the mental department at that point.  He’s not worth it, if he’s willing to lie to cover this up after being indisputably caught he will definitely lie about anything he needs to from this point on.  He does not respect you and you are better off on your own. 

One thing to consider when you are deciding whether or not to leave, remember this…men are not as mentally developed as women.  They are scientifically proven to not be able to make logical decisions when confronted with an overwhelming serving of physical attraction.  When you take us down to our animalistic roots the truth is women are on the planet to nurture and care for the young and the family.  Men were created to fertilize women and the more women they fertilize the longer the human species will prosper.  I know it’s hard to stomach but it is absolutely 100% the truth. 

If you can wrap your head around this way of thinking you will be more able to understand why men and women do what they do and why it’s hard to change habits that have been in our blood for over 2 million years.

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