There are so many things to say.  I have been following this blog for a while now and I really enjoy it. Well, I had kind of a rough day.  I won’t bore you with the details. I wanted to contribute to this blog for a while now and since the post about cheating came up I decided it was about time. 

My boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me last year.  It made me wonder what was wrong with me.  What had I done to deserve this?  I found out because I was curious, and hired a private investigator.  I learned that my hunch was not only right on but that he had been cheating for a while.  I couldn’t believe this was happening to me.  I am not ugly or fat, I am not a nag so I just couldn’t understand it.  Well, after calling off the relationship and seeking some counseling, I am starting to see that guys don’t cheat because of us.  They cheat because of insecurities they feel within themselves. I did not stick around to find out what his were because I know that “once a cheater always a cheater.”  I feel good about my decision to leave him.  I know Ii did the right thing for me no matter how painful it was at the time.  He still calls from time to time, I guess to see how I am holding up, I do not answer those calls.  My advice for anyone out there who’s been cheated on is….if you can leave, leave.  It’s the best thing for you.  He does not respect you if he cheats and possibly doesn’t respect himself.  If you can’t love yourself you are not ready to love anyone else, I firmly believe.  I’m really glad I signed on to contribute here and can’t wait to see what you guys write next. -Kelly

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